The Ups and Downs of a Life Changing Move

One of the hardest things about any major life change is the length of time it takes. We're currently waiting to hear back from the New Zealand Gov't about our initial selection. It's taken us close to 4 months to get to this stage and based on my latest research, we've got at least another 4 months to go.
When we think about this move, the mood rapidly oscillates between "It's totally going to happen, it's all just a formality" to "There's no way this is going to work, we're going to end up homeless between countries". It's a lot of work, there's a huge amount of risk (financially, for our careers, even for our social networks) and there's the ever looming unknown that can get so oppressive it's hard to think of anything but.
Keeping morale unnaturally high hasn't really worked for us so far. We've been riding out the waves keeping the small goals ahead of the big ones. It's easier to focus on smaller goals, like getting the housework for the top floor done, then to look at the big picture.
It's all too easy to get wrapped up in big plans and far away details when you don't even know if you're going yet.